Kondescending Kunt Unsolicited Online Dating Advice #1 "Starting A Relationship Expecting The Other Person to Be 'Not Real' Or A 'Scam'"

Him: "Are you real?"

Me: "No!"

Another Him: "Are you real?"

Me: "Most likely as real as you appear to be right now."

Another: "Are you real?"

Me: "Yes, but uninterested in this line of questioning."

Yet Another: "Are you real?"

Me: "I am, but you are not."

YA: "Why did you say that?"

Me: "I thought I should meet your obvious dubiousness with some of my own."

A Bunch Of Other Hims: "Are you real?"

Unanswered and ignored.

Treating someone whom you do not know and has never hurt nor bothered you like they are a liar, a thief, a scam artist, a fraud... is rude.

Demanding up front proof that someone is "real" and "serious" without providing proof that you are both... is rude.

Implying that someone is not real or scamming you, when she has not asked any payment or identity information like mother's maiden name or credit card information or driver's license information... is rude.

Telling someone that the only people you encounter online are fakes and that is why you are mean instead of apologizing...is rude.

Risking alienating others by accusing strangers of wrong doing is again rude, comes off as paranoid, and is not an effective way to start any type of social encounter.

Also, punishing a new person or group for something another person from your past has done is a negative pattern that you will have to break, if you are ever going to have a successful relationship with anyone online or off.

In addition, a thinking person would have to wonder why someone so jaded continues to answer ads especially if they cannot find it in them to act with a modicum of trust or politeness?  I guess misery loves to create more miserable company.  And, hurting people sometimes seek out more people to hurt.  They aren't really interested in meeting someone offline. It's just another form of online bullying and wasting people's time. So, in a way these demanders of realness and seriousness are neither real nor serious themselves.

The few men I have met offline from craigslist definitely did not start our encounters doubting my integrity or truthfulness.  They accepted me at face value and returned their own unique, personal responses.

If you really doubt the sincerity, honesty, reality of an ad, do everyone a favor and simply don't answer it.